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How To Start a Conversation With Your Parents

Has it ever occur to you that teens can get the conversation started with thier parents themselves?

Chances are teens are thinking the same things as their parents:

“Should I talk with them about it?”

“Will this be awkward?”

“How will they react?”

But no matter how weird you think it might be, it’s a conversation worth having. Parents have tons of wisdom and experience to share, so if you feel safe talking to them, here are some tips on how to get the conversation started. And if you don’t feel safe or comfortable talking to your parents, you can talk with another trusted adult like an older sibling, family member, your friend’s parent, a mentor, staff at your school, or any other adult you trust. These tips will work with them, too!

1. Timing!

Finding the right time to talk is critical! You want to choose a private setting, somewhere where both you and your parent/s are comfortable and can talk without any interruptions. For example:

Your bedroom
The living room
A car ride
The park

You can also think about times where you’re talking next to your parents instead of having to look directly at them such as the car or while washing dishes. This can make it a little bit less awkward because you’re not looking your parent in the eyes.

2. Establish Respect

You and your parent might have different views on sex and the topics that surround it and that’s perfectly fine. It is important to listen to one another, as well as acknowledge each other’s views and concerns. Try your absolute best to be polite, to listen, not speak above one another, and to be honest. Listen to what your parents have to say; you may learn something from their point of view!

3. Conversation Starters

Talking about sex with your parent shouldn’t be a one-time thing. It’s better if it’s an ongoing conversation. So start things off right. You can use the world around you to start the conversation, like referring to things in the media or stuff your friends have said. Consider these as possible conversation starters:

“I saw _____ in a (movie, show, web page), what is that?”
“Did your parent/s talk with you about sex?”
“How/When did you first learn about sex?”
“____ started using birth control, what do you think about that?”

4. Teach your parents!

A teachable moment is when someone uses what is going on around them to teach a lesson. For example, if you see something on TV or in a movie, ask your parents what they think about it. If your parent uses a word of phrase that is not accurate, let them know and talk to them while it is not accurate. Also, identities and words for identities are constantly changing. If your parents use a word or phrase to refer to a group of people that you know is outdated, you can nicely let them know what word would be better and why. If you are not sure why, you can you can look it up together!

Your parents care about you and the decisions you make. At the end of the conversation you may find that they are glad and relieved that you are being open with them and came to them with your questions.

That can go a long way.

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